This book is boring and is filled with inapplicable situations for us and just didn't have hardly anything we found to be helpful in preparing us for marriage. I hope that Christians start to really talk about sex honestly and openly to help each other, b/c there are a lot of couples struggling and hurting w/ nowhere to turn except books like this one that just aren't that practical or helpful. In that spirit, I am going to share our story and hopefully it might help someone else out there. My husband and I are Christians...unfortunately we had sex w/ each other in college before we got married, but we repented and stopped and so we were excited about our honeymoon night to say the least. We had this book with us but didn't think we'd need it since we already knew "it worked." Well, our wedding night was a disaster in the sex department. It didn't even work! We both panicked. The rest of the honeymoon wasn't great either and I was frantically reading this book for help and we didn't find much b/c sex hurt me very bad and we had no idea why. After months of worrying and our situation only getting worse, I went to a gyno to see if something was wrong. She said that birth control can cause "dryness," and sex just doesn't work if you have that problem and it can be so dry that any lubricant isn't going to help...and that was my situation. So I got off birth control, we were prego 2 months later and we started to have wonderful sex. So 6 years and four precious children later, here we are, I will never touch birth control hormones again b/c I believe they are unnatural and horrible for a woman's body and know many wives who feel the exact same way about it. I also know Christian people who have gotten divorces a year or less after getting married b/c sex on birth control simply didn't work, but kids weren't an option. We had no idea. So I don't know what book would have helped us back then, but now we are reading "When Two Become One" by McCluskey and LOVE it and are about to read "A Celebration of Sex" by Rosenau...we just need a refresher course and reminder on the purpose of God's creation of sex and some how-to helpfulness b/c we've never had a "regular" sex life with my being pregnant so much...and we've never had anyone to talk to about our "issues." I never would have dreamed that this would be the path our lives would take but I couldn't be more thankful as it's taken the focus off me...at first that was miserable, but now it is so much more rich and fulfilling a life as it's not all about me anymore...which may have been God's purpose all along ;)Get more detail about Intended for Pleasure.
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