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* Note: I have a copy of the Australian edition of this book. I wouldn't think the content would be any different from the original edition, apart from some Australian medical terminology, business names, contact numbers, etc. However reading some of the negative reviews here, it is possible that were some revisions and updates for the Australian edition, since I didn't find many of the criticisms in these 1-star reviews valid.

'What To Expect...' has been a very useful book for prospective first-time parents such as ourselves. The book is split into monthly chapters, with each chapter providing a wealth of useful information for that month. How you'll look, what you'll feel, common questions and problems, how far the baby has developed, what your doctor is likely to say. Other chapters deal with important concerns throughout the whole pregnancy; including food, alcohol, smoking, exercise, medication, and so forth. Labour and childbirth itself are given special sections, and it's good to see an extended section covering the physical and emotional issues a woman (and her partner) face in the postpartum period. There are so many "little" things that first-time couples wouldn't necessarily think about, and the book has certainly proved an eye-opener for the two of us so far.

I'm surprised at the negative comments about "scaring mothers" and the like. The chapter 'When There's A Problem' specifically mentions that mums who have had a complication-free pregnancy to date should skip the chapter to spare them needless anxiety. Doesn't sound much like "scaring" people to me! Really, the book's only crime is that it is comprehensive; it tries to cover all possible problems and issues that might arise, as well as many different types of lifestyles and attitudes to pregnancy. Do you prefer a more alternative or natural approach to modern medicine? Are you a recreational drug user? Are you a single mother afraid of facing things alone? Do you have a chronic health condition that may affect your pregnancy? Would you consider an abortion if your unborn baby was found to have a major problem? This is important information for various types of prospective parents, some of whom may feel frightened or isolated if their situation is not "normal". I don't understand how you can criticise a book for facing up to reality, and giving these prospective parents as much information as possible so they can make informed decisions.

As a prospective father, the only real quibble I would have is that the section for Dads is a bit brief and hand-wavey. There's a bit too much of "well you just need to put your own needs aside and be a strong man for your partner". Dads have real needs, hopes, and fears, and are increasingly involved in the birthing and nursing process. It would have been nice to spend more than 20 out of the books 500+ pages on this section in recognition of this.

That minor criticism apart, my partner and I have found this a very useful and comprehensive book that has gone a long way toward de-mystifying pregnancy for both of us. I personally found it reassuring while still being honest enough to face up to the possibility of things going wrong. Not perfect, but it has been of great benefit to us. Four stars.
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